Skip the online assessments. The last thing you need is a label. What might help is a practice—something tangible, simple, and practical that you can fall back on when that other mom triggers the hell out of you at drop-off, when you are up for a promotion and tempted to self-sabotage again, or before you agree to go 11 rounds in the ring with your partner. What can you live into and rely on? What will help you remember what is too easy to forget in the moment?
Here is the ancient and incredibly rich teaching tradition of the Enneagram de-mystified: get still, get quiet, and locate yourself in the moment. You want and need a shift in your life? The bad news and the very good news are one in the same: this is work you will do for yourself.
Type 1: The Perfectionist
Practice: Relax critical thinking. Welcome the messiness. Cultivate laughter.
Mantra: “I witness the value in everything.”
Type 2: The Giver
Practice: Relax compulsive helping. Welcome sacred selfishness. Cultivate self-care.
Mantra: “I am a good steward of my own life.”
Type 3: The Performer
Practice: Relax the performance. Welcome the uncertainty. Cultivate the pause.
Mantra: “I will slow down and look inward first.”
Type 4: The Romantic
Practice: Relax wishful thinking. Welcome the moment. Cultivate gratitude.
Mantra: “I want what I have.”
Type 5: The Observer
Practice: Relax the scarcity mindset. Welcome others. Cultivate abundance.
Mantra: “I live in abundance.”
Type 6: The Loyalist
Practice: Relax the doubt. Welcome the unknown. Cultivate courageous commitment.
Mantra: “I walk in faith.”
Type 7: The Epicure
Practice: Relax the appetite for entertainment. Welcome boredom. Cultivate quality of attention.
Mantra: “I am dedicated to this moment.”
Type 8: The Protector
Practice: Relax forcefulness. Welcome the breath. Cultivate gentleness.
Mantra: “I arrive softly and wait.”
Type 9: The Mediator
Practice: Let go of comforting routines. Welcome the challenge. Cultivate action.
Mantra: “This moment is important for me.”