The Future Is Family
In 2015, leaders at Cross Point, a local church, discovered that 89 percent of students attending its downtown location services were from surrounding areas experiencing rising crime rates. As they began building relationships with these teenagers, they discovered a need for something else to help these students through their life journeys. The teens were craving a deeper life, while also needing the daily comforts many of us take for granted. “One student told me how sitting down for a family dinner was not a common thing in his life. Another student asked if he could take a nap in my guest room because he doesn’t have a quiet, safe place to rest his head at home. As simple as those moments seem, that was a point where I realized there was a need for an organization that could help change that in these students’ lives,” says Ketric Newell, TDC Director. This realization led to the launch of the TDC, a place where students could find rest, peace, mentorship, support, and confidence.
The program started in May 2017 with sixteen students who were hungry for healthy growth in their lives. Each student was paired with a mentor who agreed to meet at least twice a month to encourage and pour into the student’s personal spiritual, emotional, and physical goals they had set for themselves for the year. Alicia, now a twelfth-grade student in the program, reflects on being scared to have a consistent mentor. “Gosh, I was so uncomfortable. I thought to myself, ‘I have to get close to someone? There’s no way I’m doing that. Usually people just turn around to hurt me or let me down.’ But after the first year, I realized that not everyone is against me. If anything, they’re here to teach me how to be different and accomplish my goals.” Coming from a challenging past, students like Alicia have been hurt by those they trusted. But through the program, they have learned to open up, trust, and take steps toward the dreams they have. “These friends and mentors have been there for me through the roughest times of my life. Around a year ago, when I became pregnant, they all came together to throw me a baby shower for my little girl. I never imagined I’d be loved and supported this much no matter what,” says Alicia.
Every Wednesday, all of the mentors and students in the program meet for a “family” dinner, where they can all come together to deepen relationships, build each other up, and enjoy a fun sit-down meal in the middle of their week. This family dinner was started because of how many of the students have never taken part in the communal experience of a daily family dinner. “Every week seriously feels like a family reunion. We all catch up, goof off, help each other through the hard things, and eat good food. It is great because we all needed some sort of family environment like this one,” Alicia shares.
Along with finding the much-needed, family-like community, the students find a safe place where they can step away from past hurt or habits and feel genuine love and encouragement to grow. Some of the teenagers in the program live in areas where their relatives are committing crimes or where gun violence deaths are occurring on their doorsteps. Trey, in the wrong place at the wrong time, went to jail for more than a month for crimes he did not commit. “We see amazing young men like Trey have all the odds against them, yet still keep seeking peace, community, and a healthy environment, and that’s what we’re here for,” states Ketric.
Besides investing in valuable relationships, another distinctive quality of the TDC is its encouragement of the students’ entrepreneurial spirit. The TDC acquires roasted beans from a local coffee company, Frothy Monkey, and teaches the students how to grind them, then package, bag, sell, and ship the coffee. Also, the students have organized a monthly coffee subscription where customers all over the United States can receive the coffee right to their doorstep. TDC Coffee helps students discover their gifts, learn the trade of coffee, and understand how a business operates. Along with this, the students gain confidence in themselves when they can sell and distribute the coffee they have worked so hard to make. When they apply to work for TDC Coffee, they’re required to go through multiple classes on personal finance and professional skills. After those classes, they’re able to work for the coffee company for around fifteen hours a week, making a reasonable wage that most students put in a savings account or use for essential expenses. “The pride and confidence these teenagers have in their work and coffee is incredible to see grow over time. We’re able to encourage them to chase after their big dreams once they have this confidence in themselves and their work,” says Dan O’Leary, TDC Coffee Coordinator. “It may be a simple, everyday product to most of us, but with every bag of coffee ordered, an inner-city teenager’s life is impacted because they are developing important job skills through safe and reliable employment.”
Through selling the coffee at Cross Point Church’s campuses and in the Nashville area, these students are also tearing down some of the racial barriers and stereotypes that are sometimes unfairly held against them. Ali Coleman, TDC Coordinator, says, “You can’t spend time with our students or buy coffee from them without racial barriers being broken down and proven wrong. These students are showing their passion and hard work through this coffee, and it is wonderful to see them transforming the community this way.”
With life stacked against them, these students’ motivation and their mentor’s encouragement drive them to seek success and a meaningful life. Ketric says, “When the community gathers around these students and commits to be consistent in their lives, we see the most incredible change in hope and excitement for their futures. Being consistent with these students is greater than being cool and greater than knowing all the answers, because consistency builds deep trust and trumps everything else.”